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“She didn’t know who my father was, he was an American airman. But…And I’ve got two half sisters, who I’ve been in contact with…”
“I met my dad at about sixteen years of age. I lived with him for a while but I’d rather not see him anymore because he was so nasty to me”
“And I have real issues with having to write ‘unknown, adopted, unknown adopted’ on every piece.”
“...my wife said just wait a few more minutes and I got a little tetchy, a little bit edgy then and we were about to go and her car came down the street and pulled onto her drive and that was when I saw her and that was amazing”
“by Christmas he had found every member of my family and didn’t charge me anything so that was really good”
“My parents are the people who raised me and the people that love me. My biological parents are the two people I share chromosomes with. ”
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“I was told I couldn’t have children, so it was gonna be, o.k. so, not only am I adopted so it’s almost like I’ve got no past, now it’s gonna be that I’ve got no, kind of, link to the future either in that sense”
“I did want to live with my parents, which hurt me because I got took off my family and lost all my family where they’ve all had to go in different places like children’s home and everything like that.”
“Sometimes I feel pushed out of the family which they don’t push me out the family but that’s how I feel in my heart because I know I’m not their daughter”
“ ...there’s a mine of information available to kids nowadays but back then there wasn’t that much so I didn’t really know who I was or where I came from…”
“It felt quite alone wondering why I wasn’t wanted, struggled a lot of rejection and self-esteem and confidence”
“I know why I was taken into care, it was because my mum was a druggie and a alcoholic and she doesn’t know how to look after children”
“...she wasn’t married and I think back in 1974 as a young Asian girl that was pretty much frowned upon in a large way so I don’t think she, I don’t she could have kept me if she wanted to.”
“...he refused to allow her to go back unless she gave you up for adoption. Because he couldn’t deal with two children that weren’t his basically. ”
“at fifteen years of age I was running away, running away from my parents and also I found my birth family”
“they’d explain how I’d come to them and it was, like, a choice that they’d have me”
“...bearing in mind I’m half Indian half Nigerian, I was adopted by an Indian family”
“I don’t think there was any one specific time when I, when it kind of clicked that I was adopted. I mean… It’s, it’s always been the normal, normal thing for me.”
“the whole nature or nurture debate and, you know, would I have been different if I’d… if I’d have grown up in my, sort of, birth family, or even in care. You know, what makes you, who you are.”
“I finally felt like I was loved by someone. Although it… didn’t necessarily need a court hearing and the words ‘you’re adopted’, to say… it was just more I needed to be settled into a family”
“And we’re still really, really close now and to me they are my mum and dad. But… I can appreciate that, for some cultures, and certainly some kind of ethnicities, it would be easier to, sort of, be raised within that kind of culture.”
“But it was quite apparent to everybody, living in a very small town in Devon, that… I wasn’t, sort of, purely Caucasian, and I did look a bit different”
“I’m just grateful to have been adopted at all, and to have a loving home and a loving family, really. To me, skin colour has always been kind of an envelope that a letter arrives in, and you discard the envelope and just hold on to what’s in the lette”
“It was like ‘Ah, everything’s over’. It was just the start of a new life really… with just the little bits of trauma to come.”
“...we went through years of infertility treatment and… decided right early on that if things didn’t work out then we would try to adopt and decided to be placed on a waiting list”
“And when we’d found out that, you know, that it was gonna be us we said well, yeah ok, when can we have them? And they said we have to really wait ‘til they’re six weeks old and… my husband, Steve, was having none of it and said ‘no I want them ”
“ ...you don’t look at it as somebody else’s child. I never, I never did. It was strange, it was just immediate bond with both of them”
“Mum and dad, they’re the people that have looked after me. I’ve only grown up only knowing them as my mum and dad and my sister as my sister, so why should it… why should it be any different? I’ve got, got a good home. And… That’s all that mat”
“Go for it! It’s… The process of actually going through the adoption interviews is quite tough. But if you… if you’re committed and, you know, you want a positive outcome then it’s definitely worth all the questions and the probing”
“I think it is a really good thing to adopt children I think it is a very positive thing to be able to give a child a life”
“...now that I look back on it, I feel like I could have behaved in a more positive way, but I don’t recall… I don’t recall…you know… I needed help. ”
“My parents helped me overcome my trauma of before my adoption by always being there for me, and never giving up on me, and always loving me.”
“but I think in my experience no matter how much they loved me there was still always some sort of gap or emptiness”
“I don’t think I knew how to react to it properly. Everything that had happened and now the fact that I.. I was settled and had something and, you know, I had love, and… you know, a family. ”
“...that they can love a child for no matter what’s happened to them or how they behave but always be there for them.”
“I was old enough to understand what was going on and I felt like nobody loved me.”
“my adoptive Mum wanted to speak to my birth mum to kind of thank her for giving me up”
“and then kind of stared at each other for a little while and just seeing, well I was looking at them to see where my looks came from ”
“Always be honest and open with your adopted children”
“when I met them I found out that my Mum is from Singapore and my Dad is English”