“I finally felt like I was loved by someone. Although it… didn’t necessarily need a court hearing and the words ‘you’re adopted’, to say… it was just more I needed to be settled into a family”
This video mentions identity and birth family
the whole nature or nurture debate and, you know, would I have been different if I’d… if I’d have grown up in my, sort of, birth family, or even in care. You know, what makes you, who you are.”
“I finally felt like I was loved by someone. Although it… didn’t necessarily need a court hearing and the words ‘you’re adopted’, to say… it was just more I needed to be settled into a family”
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I had wonderful adoptive parents. Nothing was too much. They will always be my mum and dad, but I feel someone out there owes me an explanation at least!”
Posted by marilyn on 15th May at 9:18AM (flag as inappropriate)
I am extremely pleased that I'm adopted. I was adopted as an older child from foster care - I first moved in with my parents at 10 - and there is nothing like having a family that stays with you throughout life. Because that's the thing: adoption isn't just until you're 18, it's for your whole life, and now, as an adult, I can still go home and I still have a family to be a part of, and this is something that is priceless. My experience of adoption has been very positive, and I would like to both foster and adopt some day (if I'm allowed) myself. One of my main emotions when reading this website and watching the programmes is remembering how powerless I actually felt in the whole process - I've heard people make comments about adopting along the lines of "You don't know what you might get!" - whilst this is somewhat true, there are no guarantees with birth children either (and you shouldn't "expect" anything from children anyway, just hope that they will be the best they can be), and the fact is, the children don't know what they might get either, and that's far, far scarier, given their experiences and their powerlessness! I'm quite glad I've got this opportunity to publicly state that I'm happy with my adoption!”
Posted by Amy on 13th May at 10:05AM (flag as inappropriate)
I would completely agree with Angelina. I was one of three children adopted by my parents. They also had an older natural son. The three of us were not related by birth and adopted 11 months apart which meant my mother had three children under 3 and a son who was 10 years old. This was all done under 'the old system' which meant that we were placed from hospital instead of the months it can take now. I also find the nature/nurture debate facinating as we are all very different, in terms of looks, academic ability and everything that goes with achieveing life's potential. The bottom line is that we have all reached our potential and live life to the full, thanks to being adopted and the loving family that we have been bought up in. Can I also add that there doesn't seem to be much information with regard to the natural born children and how they 'cope' with their new family.”
Posted by Susanna on 11th May at 10:19PM (flag as inappropriate)
I am pleased that I was adopted and am thankful for having been given love, stability and so many opportunities. I agree with Angelina re: nature v nurture and like her am fascinated by it. I guess it's the not knowing.
However, I could have much graver things to worry about. I am one of the lucky ones and for that I am thankful. I hope someday that I too can adopt and would indeed consider an older child.
This is a much needed campaign that acknowledges the voice of the child...something that is so often forgotten. I hope that these little voices reach our nation and encourage more people to adopt.”
Posted by Janie on 11th May at 10:17PM (flag as inappropriate)