Single. 43. Single adopter of baby.
“when I wasn’t very successful with various relationships I just decided I wanted to adopt ”
How did you find the process of being approved?
“And I was actually surprised at how much…how well Sandra knew me by the end of the process.”
Do you think you can love an adopted child in the same way people love a birth child?
“In fact, in some respects, I think I probably love her more because I feel so honoured to have been given the opportunity to be a mum. Whereas, you know, many people kind of fall into motherhood.”
What would you say to anybody thinking about adoption?
“Make sure that you’ve got plenty of good friends who are supportive, because you’re gonna need them.”
What do you think is the best way to explain birth families to adoptive children?
“ But, you know, then she says ‘Oh so you don’t like having babies in your tummy,’ And I’m going, ‘No…that’s not the reason why you came to live with me, it was because your…your…the two people that created you couldn’t actually look af”
How would you feel if your child wanted to see their birth family in the future?
“I would try not to be jealous, and try to be quite grown up about it, but, you know, I’m sure there will always be, there thinking ‘Oh, I hope she doesn’t love them more than me’.”
Did you find there was any stigma over being a single adopter?
“A lot of people really didn’t understand it, they all thought it was a bit weird. And, they…they were sort of concerned about how, ‘how’s it going to impact on your ability to do your job.’”
How is it being a single adopter?
“the social worker who first came to see me said well I am really going to put you through your paces and make sure you are sure about this”
