Married. 40 and 34. Adopters of two babies.
“...we had a baby that was stillborn and we had several miscarriages as well. We’d decided that originally we were going to foster as we didn’t think we could adopt birth children and we went through the fostering process, got to the end of the process”
How did you find the process of being approved?
“ Because there are so many mixed race children waiting for adoption once we were sort of approved as adopters, the child had already been chosen”
How was it when you first met your child/ren?
“...just played with his toys and he was happy wasn’t he, and it kind of grew from there…but that first day was stunning. ”
Do you think you can love an adopted child in the same way people love a birth child?
“I’ve also got a birth son who’s grown up and I don’t’ feel any differently towards these 2 than I do to him not in the slightest there’s absolutely no difference. ”
What would you say to anybody thinking about adoption?
“And don’t wait, don’t think we’ll put it off and we’ll wait for a few years, just do it!”
Why was your child matched with you?
“I was very insistent that the children would look like us as well because I didn’t sort of want the child growing up and people at school saying is that your dad or your mum because you don’t look like them…”
How would you feel if your child wanted to see their birth family in the future?
“...if you’ve always been open with them they’ll always talk to you about it rather than have that worry that if they search for their birth parents that its going to upset you which a lot of people tend to do but yeah that’s part and parcel of adopt”
