Married. 47 and 39. Adopters, one adopted child and one biological daughter.
“...we couldn’t have a kids of our own and then maybe adoption was a way to go to achieve our purpose. ”
How did you find the process of being approved?
“...you had to start digging in to issues that probably as a person you haven’t dealt with before in the past – but I think the advantage for us is that we went in to the whole process with the attitude that we would do whatever we needed to do to adop”
How was it when you first met your child/ren?
“ ...meeting someone who you had wanted to meet for so long, but not wanting to crowd his world ”
How did it feel when they first came to your house?
“ ...his foster mum called him and when I think about it I sort of choke up, his foster Mum called him and said well Joshua these are your new parents…”
How long did it take for you to bond with your child?
“It was really difficult in fact it came to about the seventh day I got home I was emotionally exhausted I cried all night I thought he didn’t like me”
Do you think you can love an adopted child in the same way people love a birth child?
“Yeah right now I would say without any doubt in my mind that I can love them both – I don’t love our adopted son any differently”
What would you say to anybody thinking about adoption?
“So I would say go for it, you are going to give a child a life, a home and love and I don’t think there is anything more than love ever in the whole world”
Why was your child matched with you?
“...we are not exactly from the same part as Africa so I think he was matched with us because of his circumstances and his looks and there is quite a lot of things that relate to us ”
