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  1. We adopted a five year old boy 6 years ago. We already had a birth child. The social workers said it would take a year to bond, but I felt it took at least 3. I would compare the feelings I had for the two children & worry that I did not love my adopted son as much or in the same way. I gradually came to realise thatthose worries were not helpful. Over time I have bonded with my son but it has not been easy.”

    Posted by Kirsty on 11th May at 10:16PM (flag as inappropriate)

I was lying down on the sofa and I thought what on earth am I doing with somebody else’s baby here – it just seemed completely wrong, you know I had no bond ”

Lucy B, 51

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    “It was really difficult in fact it came to about the seventh day I got home I was emotionally exhausted I cried all night I thought he didn’t like me”

    Segun and Seyi , 47 and 39

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