“My parents are the people who raised me and the people that love me. My biological parents are the two people I share chromosomes with. ”
This video mentions search and birth family
She didn’t know who my father was, he was an American airman. But…And I’ve got two half sisters, who I’ve been in contact with…”
“My parents are the people who raised me and the people that love me. My biological parents are the two people I share chromosomes with. ”
“by Christmas he had found every member of my family and didn’t charge me anything so that was really good”
“...my wife said just wait a few more minutes and I got a little tetchy, a little bit edgy then and we were about to go and her car came down the street and pulled onto her drive and that was when I saw her and that was amazing”
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My daughter was adopted 8 years ago and I know in years to come that the search for her birth mother will probably arive. I know that she will get through this process better with my blessing and all of my love and support which I will give. I fear the results of her search if I am honest - not because I think she will love me less but because of what she will see and learn about her history. Never the less I will be there to dry her tears and help her understand and accept the realities of life. This is a journey I think most adopted chidren are compelled to make.”
Posted by Julie on 14th May at 11:18PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was around 7 years old when told I had been adopted. After my father died in 97, I decided to trace my birth mother. I found her and we keep in touch and I have been several times to visit her and her husband who is not my father. She had no other children & although we keep in touch mainly by phone she is adamant she will not discuss with me who my birth father is telling me I am the result of a rape although her sisters who I have met have all told me different. Knowing what I know now I would never have tried to find my birth mother as I realise now that I was looking for the mothers love that I never had with my adopted mother, who was in and out of mental homes most of my younger years and finally left my dad only returning to the family home when she retired. My adopted parents also adopted a boy a couple of years older than me who I always felt she favoured. When she died a fews years ago she left a will leaving everything to her son and to me not mentioned as her daughter, nothing. The feeling I am left with is total loss of 40 years, like I didnt even exsist, that I have no roots.
Watching channels 4's programme last night a social worker mentioned that the emotional stability of the adopter is throughly checked, but I wonder if this type of check was conducted years ago on prospective adopters?”
Posted by Paula on 13th May at 10:33AM (flag as inappropriate)