“...adoption seemed like a way of getting a baby instead of getting a bill”
...you just have to draw a line with that sometimes and move on and that’s what we decided to do”
“...adoption seemed like a way of getting a baby instead of getting a bill”
“When the youngest of our oldest children went off to university, Marilyn got a very bad case of empty nest syndrome. ”
“So it was just really because we didn’t want our son to be an only child.”
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My husband and I have recently adopted a wee boy who has just turned 3. We were matched with him when he was 22 months old. We feel totally blessed and we too had a lot of heartache previously with 9 miscarriages to deal with and an ectopic it was a big decision and I think a woman has to come to terms with this at her own pace and once the decision is made the feeling you get when you hear your child saying mummy and daddy for the first time makes the long slow process of adoption feel worthwhile. The thought of my wee boy not being my own birthchild never comes into my head now he is mine and that is that. We cant remember what our lives were like before we had our wee lad and we would not change it for the world. We are seriously considering going through the process again I can honestly say to anyone considering it it is a long and detailed process but it was amazing what we learnt about each other. If you are still deciding I would seriously say "Go for it"”
Posted by Gill on 15th May at 10:26PM (flag as inappropriate)
I realise that children in care have been though an awful lot, but seeing the hoops these families are made to jump through to adopt a child, has completely put me off adoption. My husband and I have been trying for a baby for years. Infertility is soul destroying and incredibility hard on any marriage. To sit before a panel of social workers and have to justify why I should be a mother is unthinkable to me at the moment – does anyone give any thought to what infertile women have already be through to reach the adoption stage? How much they want it? How ridiculing and degrading the adoption process must be to them, when quite frankly there are some horrendous mothers in the world, whose only qualification is sheer luck and sperm. I think it’s absolutely shameful how these women are treated and have great respect for any woman who goes through it – I just don’t think I am tough enough.”
Posted by Sarah on 13th May at 6:35PM (flag as inappropriate)
I was unable to have children and moved on after failed IVF. My daughter was adopted 8 years ago (aged 8 months). I am truly blessed and I love her more day by day. The best thing I have ever done in my life is to adopt and not having my own birth child does not trouble me at all - that is something I thought I would never say.”
Posted by Julie on 12th May at 11:15PM (flag as inappropriate)