Nickey and Tony, Hina Rajan, Julie and Nick, Amerjeet, Diane and James, Collette and Adam, and Jessica mention age
How did you find the process of being approved?
“I didn’t think we had a chance actually of adopting when I first started, I thought, ‘Well, you know, we were…I was too old or…”
Why did you decide not to adopt after all?
“...the last eight years we’ve been trying for the next step, if you like, which is a baby. I think, in reality, we’re thinking well, if we take on a child at the age of 46, when we are in our late 50’s our child will be doing his or her 11+ and all ”
“So, we looked into the possibilities of adoption and when we started actually going through the process we’d – we actually decided that that was the best solution. That was exactly what we wanted. And actually almost became a preference, didn’t it f”
Do you know why you were taken in to care?
“...she wasn’t married and I think back in 1974 as a young Asian girl that was pretty much frowned upon in a large way so I don’t think she, I don’t she could have kept me if she wanted to.”
Did you always know you were adopted?
“I don’t think there was any one specific time when I, when it kind of clicked that I was adopted. I mean… It’s, it’s always been the normal, normal thing for me.”
How did/do you manage the relationships between adopted and birth children?
“We were concerned because he’d obviously been with us for 13 years himself, but we made the right decision because at 13 he was getting a bit more independent and he was desperate for a brother or sister and actually he has been fine.”
What children are looking for families in the UK?
“My understanding is that many of those children are over the age of 3 or 4 and in my personal experience, very few adopters are interested in children over 5.”