Kerry, Hina Rajan, and Julie and Nick mention decision
Can you tell me about why your child was taken into care?
“...and that was when I knew that was… my decision would be final, and I would be giving him up for adoption”
Have you thought about your child since they went in to care?
“Just the wondering, the wondering if I’d passed him in the street, or, had he gone to the same school as my son? Or…Just not knowing.”
Was there a stigma over having a child adopted?
“ I was never ashamed of him… I didn’t tell everybody because there is a stigma out there, and you do get frowned upon”
Why did you decide not to adopt after all?
“...the last eight years we’ve been trying for the next step, if you like, which is a baby. I think, in reality, we’re thinking well, if we take on a child at the age of 46, when we are in our late 50’s our child will be doing his or her 11+ and all ”
How did you admit that you no longer wanted to adopt?
“And it was at that point we realised a lot of people were feeling what we were thinking now, feeling that three years ago but they were too scared to tell us because they didn’t want to spoil our… our enthusiasm. ”
“So, we looked into the possibilities of adoption and when we started actually going through the process we’d – we actually decided that that was the best solution. That was exactly what we wanted. And actually almost became a preference, didn’t it f”