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Hi, yes you can. Special Guardianship Orders were introduced to help Grandparents who are looking after their Grandchildren temporarily. This type of order will continue to recognise the birth parents, however their ability to exercise their parental responsibility is limited.
You can go for a full adoption order whenever you want, this will of course mean that the birth parents are no longer recognised as such. It just depends on what you want to do.
You should contact your local authority to get the ball rolling. Also, if the child is currently living with you, you are required to notify your local authority that you are Private Fostering, this is a new law.
I am currently in the process of getting a Special Guardianship Order in place as I am now the parent of a relative's child. I will be then going for an Adoption order as it has been advised by our Local Authority that we do that as the situation is a permanent one and not temporary.”
I hate it now when the adverts say children are crying out to be adopted and a social worker can decide that you are a lesser adoption parent because the criteria includes having a 'social network'. As one birth mum said - when she moved in to a new area she knew no one except THROUGH contact with her children. The social services want adopters to have more than what a birthmother or father have when they begin a family. Adoption and fostering 'matches' go wrong so the whole vetting procedure is dependent upon the personal intelligence and integrity of a social worker - and that person could be someone who has never had children or bringing up their children in a notsofabway. In the old days it was based on whether you were a. a loving and caring person b. there was a child who needed a parent. All the other stuff just holds hundreds of children back in care homes and foster families which it is known NOT what the children want and certainly what the teenager who has got "too old" to be placed needs. Look at the heros of the 2oth century and you will see that they grew up in poverty, in slums and with little on their shoes but their backbone and moral fibre was created by having a supportive family. Governments obsession with materialism and not human contact means we have created a generation who have little social skills and get too angry and too violent too quickly. Give a child a home, give a child a parent, not a CD player or a new pair of NIKE trainers.”
There could be any number of reasons. What an assessing agency is looking for is your ability to meet a child's needs. It's all about the child, not your eligibility. They'll be looking for a whole host of skills and qualities: parenting ability, emotional stability, coping mechanisms, support network.”
i thought i might be caught in the same catch 22, but my housing association were very supportive and once they spoke to the adoption agency agreed that i would be placed on the exchange list once approved. the adoption agency were also very flexible in there approach and agreed to go ahead with the assessment. my whole problem with the LA's response to people who are willing to adopt but are unable to be assessed until they have larger accommodation is that the same LA's have no problem having families living in there accommodation in seriously over crowded conditions, it really does seem to be quite hypocritical of them.”
At 49 social workers would probably expect you to take on an older child but if you have been waiting years like us it is very cruel to not let you adopt a younger child.”
Im twenty one years old, I had lost my SSC and went to apply for a new to find out that my aunt is my bio-logical mother and I have no idea who my father is. My adopted parents divorced and never told me, I was crushed,upset,confu sed I couldnt stop crying, what makes the even harder is that I havent seen my aunt(bio-logical mother) in years. What am I supposed to say to her?”
It sounds as if everything would work in your favour. A difficulty might be in trying to adopt (especially a sibling group) when your youngest child is still so young. Authorities often state that the adopted child or children should be the youngest in the family when they come to you. Hope it works out for you anyway!”
i feel you are very lucky to work for understanding department that allows their foster carer's to adopt. We to are foster carer's have 3 children 1 for 8yrs other 2 2,1/2yrs went through special guardianship, advised to pursue to adoption only to be told, foster carers cannot adopt it is there policy. two younger children know waiting for adoptive family we are devasted, will remaun committed and professional and see them through this process.”
Hi, yes you can. Special Guardianship Orders were introduced to help Grandparents who are looking after their Grandchildren temporarily. This type of order will continue to recognise the birth parents, however their ability to exercise their parental responsibility is limited.
You can go for a full adoption order whenever you want, this will of course mean that the birth parents are no longer recognised as such. It just depends on what you want to do.
You should contact your local authority to get the ball rolling. Also, if the child is currently living with you, you are required to notify your local authority that you are Private Fostering, this is a new law.
I am currently in the process of getting a Special Guardianship Order in place as I am now the parent of a relative's child. I will be then going for an Adoption order as it has been advised by our Local Authority that we do that as the situation is a permanent one and not temporary.”
Arlene answers can i adopt my own grandchild? 17th Nov 2009
I hate it now when the adverts say children are crying out to be adopted and a social worker can decide that you are a lesser adoption parent because the criteria includes having a 'social network'. As one birth mum said - when she moved in to a new area she knew no one except THROUGH contact with her children. The social services want adopters to have more than what a birthmother or father have when they begin a family. Adoption and fostering 'matches' go wrong so the whole vetting procedure is dependent upon the personal intelligence and integrity of a social worker - and that person could be someone who has never had children or bringing up their children in a notsofabway. In the old days it was based on whether you were a. a loving and caring person b. there was a child who needed a parent. All the other stuff just holds hundreds of children back in care homes and foster families which it is known NOT what the children want and certainly what the teenager who has got "too old" to be placed needs. Look at the heros of the 2oth century and you will see that they grew up in poverty, in slums and with little on their shoes but their backbone and moral fibre was created by having a supportive family. Governments obsession with materialism and not human contact means we have created a generation who have little social skills and get too angry and too violent too quickly. Give a child a home, give a child a parent, not a CD player or a new pair of NIKE trainers.”
Goin answers why can't someone with no criminal record and a stable job get a child to adopt? 31st Oct 2009
There could be any number of reasons. What an assessing agency is looking for is your ability to meet a child's needs. It's all about the child, not your eligibility. They'll be looking for a whole host of skills and qualities: parenting ability, emotional stability, coping mechanisms, support network.”
[No first name supplied] answers why can't someone with no criminal record and a stable job get a child to adopt? 21st Oct 2009
i thought i might be caught in the same catch 22, but my housing association were very supportive and once they spoke to the adoption agency agreed that i would be placed on the exchange list once approved. the adoption agency were also very flexible in there approach and agreed to go ahead with the assessment. my whole problem with the LA's response to people who are willing to adopt but are unable to be assessed until they have larger accommodation is that the same LA's have no problem having families living in there accommodation in seriously over crowded conditions, it really does seem to be quite hypocritical of them.”
sally answers I am 25,want to adopt, but single,renting and can hardly pay a 1room appartment. Is there any help? 30th Sep 2009
At 49 social workers would probably expect you to take on an older child but if you have been waiting years like us it is very cruel to not let you adopt a younger child.”
sue answers My wife and I are both 49 and were approved to adopt two years ago we have shown an interest in 10 children without success. Are we too old? 18th Sep 2009
If you are in Lincolnshire, we are looking for adoptive parents, log on to lincolnshire.gov.uk /adoption”
Lucy answers We would love to adopt... Where would we start? 17th Sep 2009
Im twenty one years old, I had lost my SSC and went to apply for a new to find out that my aunt is my bio-logical mother and I have no idea who my father is. My adopted parents divorced and never told me, I was crushed,upset,confu sed I couldnt stop crying, what makes the even harder is that I havent seen my aunt(bio-logical mother) in years. What am I supposed to say to her?”
Ashley answers What do you do when you find out the child you have adopted was wrongfully removed from its birth parents? 14th Sep 2009
It sounds as if everything would work in your favour. A difficulty might be in trying to adopt (especially a sibling group) when your youngest child is still so young. Authorities often state that the adopted child or children should be the youngest in the family when they come to you. Hope it works out for you anyway!”
Margaret answers We have 3 children (2, 8 & 11) & a large country home with plenty of love to go around. we'd like to adopt now while we/they are young. we're hoping to adopt a sibling group as they're often difficult to place / are often separated. Have we a chance? 7th Sep 2009
Yes the 'ex' can say what they like to the social work dept. and their accusations will stall your application until investigated.”
Helen answers My ex-wife would probably sabotage my adoption attempt. Can adoption agencies find out about previous marriage or children who don't want contact? (NO violence/abuse) 14th Aug 2009
i feel you are very lucky to work for understanding department that allows their foster carer's to adopt. We to are foster carer's have 3 children 1 for 8yrs other 2 2,1/2yrs went through special guardianship, advised to pursue to adoption only to be told, foster carers cannot adopt it is there policy. two younger children know waiting for adoptive family we are devasted, will remaun committed and professional and see them through this process.”
marcia answers How were you matched with your child? 6th Aug 2009